Writing this letter is kinda awkward because I don’t know how my future self will be since I’m just 18. Maybe my hair is longer, skinnier, been heartbroken, married with 4 kids somewhere in Europe or still kicking it in Atlanta doing what I love: eating. But whatever stage you are in, I hope your experiences have thought and molded you to be a better person. You are still the loving, funny, smart and beautiful girl that you have always been.
No matter what you are going through, you can make it! I believe in you. Do not get accustomed to whatever society, culture, traditions or beliefs says you have to do. You are strong and you can do whatever you set your mind to. You are a Queen, remember that! You’ve got royal blood flowing through your veins. Adjust your crown, don’t let anyone take it away from you.
In my 20s: I hope you are studying hard and making good grades. I hope you are being an exemplary student. No matter how hard school is, you will make it on top! I guarantee you that! I hope you are embracing the quality time you have while you are single and doing things you love. Travelling, spending quality time with family, meeting new people, trying out new things… Follow your heart and don’t allow external sources cloud your judgment. Explore and find what you love and start doing it. Do not allow your peers or family to pressure you into marriage unless you are absolutely ready. Focus on building yourself now. Love God. Love yourself.
In my 30s: I hope you have become a doctor living in a mansion with your husband and 6 children. Spend quality time with your husband and children. Take them to the best schools, show up to their games, help them with their homework, teach them how to love and care for each other. Teach them the way of God and get them active in church. Teach them our traditions, do not let the culture skip their generation. Continue your passion and make a difference in people’s lives.
In my 40s: I hope you are being the best wife and mother you can be. You and your husband have started building a legacy for yourselves and children. Enjoy every stage of your young children. I have heard people say they miss their kids when they are much older. I hope you are visiting home more often or maybe have moved to Ghana permanently. Whatever the situation is, embrace every step and carry your family with you as you go.
Read this letter every decade and remind yourself who you were, are and going to be. Ultimately, I hope whatever stage you are in, you are full of joy and happy.
by Ivery Arie