I do not want to make this piece about the tragedy that took the lives of nine people. I want this piece to be about how it brought about the beautiful #girldad concept to the forefront. As a girl child myself, and the first child “the Ada” (pronounces as ‘ah-dah’) of my parents , I grew up just as special as my only brother. My connection with my father is near and dear to my heart and it was never a question that my siblings and I were loved. My dad embodied the #girldad concept and always said “I know my daughters would take care of me” and without a doubt, we still do.
Even though I grew up with a great bond with my father, I never denied not hearing other men ask my father how it was to have five female children. “Don’t you wish you had more boys”, some would ask. It was as if his own legacy would be wiped away because he only had one male child. Throughout many cultures in the world, there is heavy pressure to produce male children in order to continue the legacy of the father simply because the girl child would carry on her husband’s legacy. The public outpour for the female child brought so much joy to my little African heart.
As a typical “daddy’s girl” my father raised me to know that my importance would never be diminished simply because I am female. He told me that I am just as able to achieve the same goals as my male counterparts. That love and bond was the same spark and love that I saw between Kobe and Gianna Bryant. That father-daughter relationship is so precious, that it deserves to be celebrated. Being a father to all girls is just as good, and just as worthy, which leads me to why are these people so mad about the #girldad celebration.
In a world where there is so much stereotype against females, can there be a little grace to celebrate her strength and courage? It is not easy being female in such a rigid world that seems it wasn’t made for you.
Social meida which is meant to ease the stress life places on us is used to perpetuate this negativity.
I thought I wouldn’t see any negative comment about a concept so precious, but low and behold, I found a couple of tweets but decided to just go with the one negative one that seemed to be the main crux of the negative notions. Now, I do not know why on earth someone would be so negative about something so precious, but people really were mad out here about all the positive posts and pictures of #girldads. As you can see from the stats of the tweet, many people felt the same way.
Are you a product of a #girldad concept? Were you cherished and loved or were you told by your parents that you were born out of a trial to have a male child? There was definitely a need for the hashtag as having girls should be just as wonderful and a blessing as having boys. Please, let’s take time to celebrate and be proud of the products #girldad movement.